Online, there is lots of information on domestic violence but it can be hard to relate to. You might even find yourself thinking it’s different for you and your partner because … and then you insert an excuse that has often been used by your partner.
It’s important to understand that domestic violence and abuse comes in many forms – physical, emotional, financial and controlling. It can also feel confusing – especially if your partner’s behaviour oscillates between devotion and cruelty.
Here are 11 feelings that indicate you are living in an abusive relationship:
- Constantly feeling stressed or on edge and often have trouble relaxing at the end of the day or on weekends.
- Muscle tightness that’s hard to explain – especially in your shoulders, upper back, chest or stomach.
- Feeling too fearful to talk to your partner about certain topics because you are concerned he or she may get angry.
- Concern or worry about leaving your children or pets alone with your partner in case they are harmed or neglected while you are out.
- Being afraid to call or message friends and family because you know your partner won’t approve and may check your devices.
- Feeling anxious about your partner’s mood because you never know what to expect.
- Stomach cramps, nausea or feeling your stomach drop when your partner comes home from work or returns from an outing.
- Confusion about whether you can really trust your partner.
- Doubts about yourself and questioning whether there is something ‘wrong’ with you.
- Feeling trapped or hopeless or not as confident as you once were. Abusers often undermine their victim’s confidence as a way to control them.
- Concern that your children or pets have behavioural issues.
What to do now
If you can relate to any of these feelings, we are very sorry and suggest you speak to a trusted friend or family member about how you are feeling. If you aren’t ready to share your feelings with others yet, you’ll find useful information on our Resources page. Please share this post because it may help others.
